Friends in Your Late-Twenties: Why They Matter

As I matured I began to realize why friends in your late twenties matter. Growing up I don’t remember having an issue making friends. As a matter of fact,  I had the same circle of friends throughout my elementary, middle, and high school years. As I grew into a young adult and late twenties, it seemed friends were coming and going and I kind of felt a little alone at one point in my life. Now that I’ve reached my thirties, I started to explore the importance of friends in my late twenties.

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I remember being in a season where I felt alone because of the many transitions I was going through. I would ask God to send me godly friendships, you know the type where you can call them “Sistah Frans” because you can be real with them and they feel close like family. Cultivating is what makes relationships blossom. We must continue tending to our relationships if we don’t want them to die.

My reason for the importance of having friends is because in that particular season of my life I was either newly married and/or getting ready to have my first child. These seasons were new and a little difficult to handle on my own. But these friendships have helped me become a better woman and not just in my marriage but also my motherhood and spiritual growth.

Why Having Friends In Your Late-Twenties Are Important

• Help You Navigate Through Hard Things

The beauty of being a woman is that we are required to wear many different hats. As one hat gets taken off, another needs to be put on for us to keep going. Having friends helps you as they may have gone through what you’re currently experiencing and can give words of encouragement or tips on how the best way out of a situation.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are times in my life when I would call a mom friend and just say, “Hey! Can you come over so we could talk? You know…girl stuff.” And they always showed up without hesitation, reservation, or judgment.

• Build your character

I’ve learned that as I go about my day, to be the very best me and not what society thinks I should be. As friends in your late twenties come into our lives with similar values of faith, family, career, or whatever they may have we all grow together because we understand one another on a deeper level.

• Remind you that you’re not alone

We all get lonely, especially being home with children all day. I think it’s important to have friends in your late twenties because they remind us that we’re not alone and we don’t need to do life on our own. When you forget to pack a change of clothes and your little one has peed through everything or when you are frustrated to the max, friends remind you that you’re not alone in the highs and lows of motherhood.

Friendships Matter

It can be hard to find friends in your later twenties. You may feel like there is no time for it because you’re building a career, raising kids, or trying to have some semblance of personal life amidst all the chaos that comes with being an adult. But I’m here to tell you that friendships matter and they will help you through those tough seasons when everything feels out of control. And don’t forget about me! I might not always know what’s going on in your life but I want to offer whatever support I can give so please reach out if you need anything at all from me–a listening ear, someone who understands how difficult this season is (and also knows how much better it gets).